Perception is reality

Greetings y'all :

The weekend is here and there's lots to be done around the humble Robinson abode. I loathe housework , but at least I have a house to clean. I'm flummoxed because I was only paid for one week but expected and needed to be paid for two. My credit rating has plummeted this year anyway with the additional medical expenses I had for Mowgli. But at least I have a job. While I'd prefer a nationalized health care I'm lucky to have a job and be able to have insurance for my family. Sure Zander keeps asking for a mommy but we both know we're lucky to have each other.

Perception..... is reality

Is the glass half full? Half empty? Or like me are you happy to have a glass ?

I saw enormous growth from Alexander the Great this week. It came with immense struggle. As one person said " he can read at talk about things as a young adult with great comprehension then we forget he's only eight and hasn't learned to control all his big emotions " quite honestly I fought back tears when I heard that. Another person told me she sees a kind boy trying to get out, I had to hug her. Zander's battling the age old conflict of man vs. himself.

These positive affirmations to him and about him are important. The last two years at school he's been told he is bad and is mean. The negatives were highlighted. Naturally he lived up , or rather down, to those labels.

Perception is reality.

I wonder what would happen if he were placed in a challenging academic environment? Maybe even skip a grade like I pleaded for and tested him for back in K and 1? I'm pleased with his teacher this year, great job stressing cooperation but can't help but wonder about surrounding him more academically advanced peers. He was slated for GT until he was placed in BLS . Oh I understand his behavior holds him back . Could the fact he's not been challenged be a factor in these learned behaviors?

Perception is reality

We are the Robinson Boys and play the hand we are dealt. Doesn't mean we aren't looking to build a better mouse trap though. By golly we're Pisces we are always mulling over ways to improve.

Now for something completely different...

By gum I have some good friends. Not just Facebook friends who randomly pop into your life and have no stake in your life but down to earth angels. One is going through personal hell and is an inspiration to the universe, another has physical issues but is always smiling and a deep rich soul, another is suffering from cardiac break apartus but doesn't see their personal light yet, another manages to just keep moving forward, yet another unknowingly is teaching me to be a better man/father/ person. Resiliency and honesty are what keeps us all moving forward. I'm honored to have friends who reach for me and to me. That was lacking for years because of a situation I allowed myself to be in. Yeppers years of DV and follow up therapy and I still blame myself.

Look at each moment , if it's a learnable moment of struggle and thus growth we ought to ask ourselves " do I have a problem or does the problem have me ?" l if it's the former then you own it, you have choices. You can solve and resolve. If its the latter then you'll be stuck in that quagmire for some time until you own it and take control.

Perception is reality.

I'll leave you with a pair of John Lennon quotes .

" Reality leaves a lot to the imagination"

" There's no problems only solutions"

Thanks reading today folks !