Dinner jump up

Greetings y'all:

It's tech free Thursday so I'll be quick today.

We walked to school again yesterday , great exercise , more bonding , and increased and relaxed conversation. On the way in Junior Mint " said we're all imperfect people in an imperfect world" . We both went on to face good days. I think he's being more respectful , now if we can just let him be an eight year old he'll be even better.

With the program he's in there is considerable micro-management. That has its good points but ADHD (quirky and exuberant) and oppositional (self reliant ) children chafe at that. Firm rules and gentle reminder work wonders for kids , not firm rules and constant punishment. I've done good work with these kids and worse kids. Each child wants to be valid and it's amazing how well non verbal cues work. Something as a smile and shake of the head or thumbs up. But micro-managing will lead to a tug of war. Every loses then.

So after a successful day at school/ work we walked to his therapist. We discussed his anger over the weekend and think its a combination of the aforementioned micro-management , learned behavior at school and the part that helped his bubbling magma of emotion to erupt was he was stressed he was going to see his mom. He'd forgotten that he had asked to cancel the visit. But we all pieced it together. Do his IA at school reminds him of his mom regarding demeanor and looks and he's been chaffing and projecting.

Can't we let him be eight ? Can't we let his mind calm instead of demanding it? I get that he's angry and is imperfect but so are adults. He's struggling to be a kid why should he be the grown up.

After therapy we walked back to work for the juggling club. After waiting and hour and a half we discovered club is canceled until further notice while the school gets some work done to it. Ok at least junior mint got on his first in math page and did over two hours of math , for fun. We finally walked home after that.

After a nice fourteen hour day Zander decided to fix dinner jump up. Obstenibly its when you jump up and fix your own dinner. Last night he decided to jump up and grab stuff from the fridge. We enjoyed a lovely repast of apple crisp,broccoli , red grapes , cheese and carrots. Best food I'd had in ages.

Ok gotta go get this here brand new day started and see what surprises the universe has in store for us. Thanks for reading again today folks.